Faith is deliberate confidence in the character of God whose ways you may not understand at the time ~Oswald Chambers

Sunday, October 3, 2010

Remembering Dad

My last post marked Lia's third birthday celebration.  The balloons. The candles. The sweetness of her special day.

Yet, hours later, in the middle of the night, I received a phone call that my dad had unexpectedly, inexplicably, tragically passed away.

We are still reeling from the loss but as the weeks have passed I have come to see even more clearly what a remarkable man my dad was.  And though reminders of his sudden absence are evidenced everywhere, it is the lessons that he taught us and the life that he lived that bring me such joy when I remember him.

A life of humility, character, and love.

One of the things that I will always remember about my dad is how well he loved my mom.  Not a Christmas, birthday, or anniversary would pass that he would not present her with a card filled with words of adoration extolling how much she meant to him.  Almost every word pre-written by Hallmark would be underlined two or three times emphasizing his agreement.  And many times he would include his own poems or the one they found as high school sweethearts and claimed as "their own."

They met in 9th grade and last Friday would have been their 44th wedding anniversary.

Mom and Dad on their wedding day  (9/24/1966)
I will also remember how well my dad loved my brother and I often working several jobs as a young father to support us and make ends meet.  After serving in the army and coming home from Korea, he began work in a supply room at a local building company.  He literally worked from the ground up and eventually started his own home building business.

Nobody, and I mean nobody, built homes like my dad.  Not only did he have an eye for design and detail but more importantly, he was trustworthy, dependable, and honest.  Though his work was excellent, it was his character that drew people to him and gave him success in his line of work.

And then there were the grand kids.

Oh how he loved his grand kids.
Dad offering some grandfatherly advice to Michael  (1997)

And oh how his grand kids loved him.

Celebrating birthdays with Michael and Lauren (2000).

He always had time for them no matter what he was doing.
Caroline stealing a moment with Granddaddy (2009)
And they relished every moment they had with him.
Alex and Granddaddy taking in a little batting practice (2009)
No matter whether those precious kids were family members by birth or by adoption, he loved them all just the same.
Patiently waiting for Lia to warm up to him...which she eventually did...whole-heartedly. (2009)

Since my dad's passing, I have heard story after story of how his life impacted others. And how his character  made him a role model that many looked up to.

Michael with his Granddaddy (1998)
It is my hope that as my kids grow, I will be able to pass on to them those things taught to me by my dad not only in the words I use but in the love I show them as well.

Mom and Dad (2009)
Thank you, Dad, for a life well lived.

"I thank my God every time I remember you."  ~Philippians 1:3 

Ni Hao Y'all


  1. Oh goodness! What an incredible man your dad was... he truly left a legacy of love.
    What wonderful pictures you have of him, I can only imagine how much love you carry for him in your heart :)
    Thanks for sharing about one wonderful husband, father and grandfather!

  2. What a beautiful tribute to your Dad. I was honored to know him

  3. I've been wondering why you were so quiet for so long. I'm so sorry that you are separated from your father for now, but I'm praying that you will have assurance in your Heavenly reunion!


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